Thursday, April 12, 2012

Unrequited Love

The first word that comes to mind with this thought is generally cowardice. But, wait a minute. Think about it. If it’s never requited, it remains the same always. It’s never blemished by mistakes, unfaithfulness, too many children or not being able to have children at all. It stays beautiful. Mistakes don't have the chance to mar it. Is it possible that unrequited love could be better than the real thing?
Sure. That person remains an ideal, a dream in your head forever. She’s a thought to hold onto, to romanticize, to fantasize. Unrequited love is a love that’s never ruined.

What do you think about it?


  1. All true. But a flower never allowed to bloom is only beautiful to the plant that knows what it's holding inside.

    The rest of the world gets cheated.

    You say potential cowardice, I say selfishness. Something as wonderful and inspiring as love should never be hoarded.

  2. Both good points, I think. I keep going to say I agree with one, but then I change my mind and agree with the other! Perhaps that's the sad truth???

  3. Interesting post. For me unrequited love is not perfect, it's not even "real" and it's quite two-dimentional in the sense that there is no two-way interaction fleshing out that love, breathing life into it. I think it is most useful for practicing how to love someone-in the way that young girls develop crushes on teen idols. The girls aren't really ready for the nitty gritty of a relationship with a real, hormone-stuffed boy, that's a little too scary. It's far safer to "love" an unattainable boy. I think adults who develop an unrequited love for someone are often fooling themselves-maybe they don't think they are worthy of real love, or maybe they're not willing to put in the effort to make real love work. Glad to "meet" you as part of the Follow-Swap bloghop. Come say "hi" at A Nest Of Words if you have time.

    1. Great points you have. I see where the first thing you'd think of is a childhood crush when thinking of unrequited love. However, that wasn't my direction when I wrote the above post. I'm talking about that guy on the rail you see every day and have developed a sort of distant smiling and nodding relationship. The friend who you love, yet never chase that feeling. Your coworker who treats his family in such a lovely way you've sort of been sucked in, but you'd only run the other direction if you caught his attention because he is married. You might not call any of those situations "love" but I would call it a certain level of it. So how about this? A couple immersed in budding love, but must separate because their careers or college or family have pulled them in different directions geographically each respects the other too much to tie him/her down with a long distance relationship.
      My point is, you have a certain perception of people and often it falls through, sometimes without anyone even at fault. Is it possible that it's better to be able to hold on to the perception rather than it be torn from you? Is requited love worth the disappointment?

  4. If its what makes you happy then why not